adult incontinence–diapers/pullups?

Does anyone have personal experience with both goodnites and tena brand pullups?

Background: I’m male, 152 lbs and have used goodnites during the daytime with fair success. I have urge-type incontinence which translates to 2-3 ‘mild’ accidents throughout the daytime, and the goodnites have been perfect (male-incontinence shields bunch up and leak). At night, I use the Tena diapers, and have now started considering the pullups for daytime use. They are advertised as close-fitting to the body and basically undetectable (why I like the goodnites); however, I’m wondering about their performance.

Again, the goodnites have worked very well for me, however, the baby-ish designs occasionally get to me; though I’ve accepted this as part of my life (at least for now), I would like to feel abit more ‘adult.’ I have a very supportive GF, but sometimes I’m embarrassed when she sees me in the ‘baby’ diapers, less so in the adult diapers.

Any ’serious’ advice is appreciated.

We use attends in the hospital. They work well. You will need to get them from a medical supply store,