Im so scared is a relationship possible with my problem ?
I am 20 year old male with a disabilty my disabilty is i was born with a small bladder its not the size of a normal bladder which unfortnately means i have to wear an incontinence pad i.e (Adult nappy). But my big problem is what do i tell a female when i go into a relationship with her im so scared. please answer honestly what do i say and would you even consider someone with the same problem.
Oh and if you going to answer with any rude or nasty comments dont bother.
Please answer
Thanks
Yes, it is very possible. Not everyone will understand, but as has been said before, there are a lot of people out there who will — and anyone who will not accept you for who you are is not worth your time anyway. I think the best advice I can give you other than that is just to keep your chin up and accept YOURSELF for who you are. I had a hard time dating for the longest time, not because women rejected me for my problems, but because I rejected myself and so was too afraid to approach them for fear that they would do the same. Once I got past that and became comfortable with who I am, I was able to open up to a wonderful, understanding, caring woman who is now my wife. 
Just give yourself time and keep trying and there’s no reason in the world it can’t happen for you too.
As for when and how to tell them — I would say probably not on the first date, unless you are already good friends with the person — even some well meaning people might be a little "spooked" if that’s one of the first things out of your mouth, before they get a chance to know you for any of your other good qualities. (They might think that your bladder condition is one of the foremost characteristics of your life or your personality — which it’s not!!) I would say as soon as you see a reasonable chance that things might become serious for the long term — tell her then, because if the worst happens and she just can’t deal with it (which would be strictly her problem, NOT yours) you owe it to yourself to find that out before you invest yourself so deeply into the relationship that you would be terribly crushed to have her break it off. Definitely tell her before you would consider sleeping together, you don’t want any "surprises" in that setting!
Main thing — just be confident in yourself for who you are, and you will do fine. There is much more to you as a person than the size or shape of your bladder. Project yourself in that way and most or all decent women will see it that way, too. Best of luck to you!!
tell her the truth.
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Could you not wear a catheter instead?
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Tell her im sure she will understand, and if she doesnt there are plenty other girls who wud b more accepting
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M8 tell them the truth if they cant accept it there obvisiouly not worth it you will find somebody .. gd luck
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well hopefully people will like you for being you, an if they don’t mate then it’s not your problem, i can understand it is a difficult one so good luck with it.
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dont tell her untill (and only if) you get to a really serious relationship BECOZ it will freak her out seriously. dont tell untill at least 2 years and if she asks y didnt you tell me say i ddnt want to freak you out ! i dont want to make you sound shallow but otherwise you might not have wanted to go out with me etc….
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Don’t say nothing at first. Let a girl see you for who you are and then after a time tell her that you have a disability that affects your life. You might inspire her for being able to live through it. We like people for their strengths and love them for their weaknesses.
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Bring up in conversation on the first / few date(s) that you have a disability, it’s not serious and nothing to worry about, but it does affect your life but when you feel comfortable talking to her about it, you will.
If she’s interested in you, then she knows that there is something wrong but it’s nothing serious and if she likes you, she will wait.
Don’t leave it for two years like "Under the knife" suggested as your girlfriend could feel hurt that you couldn’t confide and or trust in her sooner. Do confide in her when you feel ready to confess and when you feel that she will understand but there’s no guarantee that when you do tell the "right" one that they will stay.
As for me, I won’t let a disability get in the way of a relationship if he was the right guy as nobody is perfect, including me. My husband has taken me and all my bad things so I don’t see why I shouldn’t take other peoples.
Hope this helps and good luck.
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mention it if the romance goes beyond a couple of dates, then eventually when you find someone that does love you for who you are, it wont matter to her, my son has a similar problem, does it not help you if you go to the toilet more often then most people, my son goes to the loo about 2-3 times an hour and he stays dry, try it, it might work
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Yes, it is very possible. Not everyone will understand, but as has been said before, there are a lot of people out there who will — and anyone who will not accept you for who you are is not worth your time anyway. I think the best advice I can give you other than that is just to keep your chin up and accept YOURSELF for who you are. I had a hard time dating for the longest time, not because women rejected me for my problems, but because I rejected myself and so was too afraid to approach them for fear that they would do the same. Once I got past that and became comfortable with who I am, I was able to open up to a wonderful, understanding, caring woman who is now my wife.
Just give yourself time and keep trying and there’s no reason in the world it can’t happen for you too.
As for when and how to tell them — I would say probably not on the first date, unless you are already good friends with the person — even some well meaning people might be a little "spooked" if that’s one of the first things out of your mouth, before they get a chance to know you for any of your other good qualities. (They might think that your bladder condition is one of the foremost characteristics of your life or your personality — which it’s not!!) I would say as soon as you see a reasonable chance that things might become serious for the long term — tell her then, because if the worst happens and she just can’t deal with it (which would be strictly her problem, NOT yours) you owe it to yourself to find that out before you invest yourself so deeply into the relationship that you would be terribly crushed to have her break it off. Definitely tell her before you would consider sleeping together, you don’t want any "surprises" in that setting!
Main thing — just be confident in yourself for who you are, and you will do fine. There is much more to you as a person than the size or shape of your bladder. Project yourself in that way and most or all decent women will see it that way, too. Best of luck to you!!
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i’ve struggled with a bedwetting problem my whole life (due to an underdeveloped bladder), and am now very happily married to a wonderful and understanding woman